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Maria Barletta

Integrative Counsellor

Psychotherapist

Registered member of the BACP (MBACP)

Online Counselling 

English and Spanish spoken

Do you feel like you are not living the life you were meant to live?

 

Do you sometimes experience a deep sense that this cannot be "it"?

Do you have a yearning for a more meaningful experience of life?

I know how it feels because I’ve had that experience many times in my life.

We are so engrossed in our busy daily routines trying to survive in an uncertain, challenging world. 

 

Sometimes it feels like it is all too much.

 

Sometimes it feels like something is "off" and with that feeling comes a sadness, a sense of loss, and grief.

Feeling like that is profoundly discomforting, I know. 

 

It is easier to think that there is something wrong with us but the fact is that, the feeling of discomfort, pain and overwhelm is hiding a huge opportunity for growth.

Why would I need Life Coaching?

Perhaps, you have been having any of these experiences?
 

  • You sense that so much is possible for your life but feel stuck and unable to move forward.

  • You may set yourself lofty goals, start a project but, after the initial excitement, you lose the motivation and get stuck and unable to move forward.

  • You feel frustrated and disillusioned with your career and find it hard to cope with the increasing demands of modern life.

  • You feel invisible, disenfranchised, ashamed, guilty, etc. because you have not been able to "make it work" for yourself and are constantly comparing yourself to others who seem to "have it all together".

  • You have been struggling to make a decision and need to find clarity.

  • You have identified a pattern that repeats over and over in some area of your life but do not know what to do to change it.

  • You would like to explore how you can move forward in the areas where you sense a bigger potential than the experiences you are having at present.

Life Coaching can help you find clarity and direction.
 

What is life Coaching?

Life Coaching is a purposeful conversation between you and I: you being the coachee and I, the

coach.

What makes the Life Coaching conversation very special is that it has a specific purpose.

The experience of being coached by a Life Coach is sometimes a bit hard to define: we start a conversation, set some goals, explore your thoughts and emotions around your issue.

I ask you different types of questions to understand what you are experiencing.

 

Some of the questions may be difficult to answer, simply because noone has ever asked you those type of questions before, maybe because you have never even asked yourself those type of questions.

We explore your behaviour and analyse whether what you do gets you the results you want.

 

If you are coming to Life Coaching, it is likely that what you are doing right now is not getting you what you want, so we explore what you can do differently.

Life Coaching offers you a space to explore your options, your opportunities, your possibilities. While you are being coached, you can test doing things differently and then come and talk to the coach about what happened, what you were thinking, how you felt, what impact your actions had on others...

All this is discussed in the Life Coaching space, where there is no right or wrong, no judgements, no advice about what you should or should not do.

Time and time again, I have been marvelled at the possibilities that open up for my clients when they are allowed to express themselves in this way, in such a safe space of exploration.

What happens in the first Life Coaching session?

In the first session, we agree on what you want to work on.

 

You bring a problem and the desire for change.

I bring my knowledge and experience in the process of change and the methodology of transformation.

During the first and, sometimes, second sessions, we explore your problem and you decide on what you want to happen: What outcome do you want?

The idea of the coaching relationship is to help you to move you from where you are right now to where you want to be.

We will embark on a journey of exploration and discovery that will develop your self-awareness and ability to make life-enhancing decisions.

Life Coaching works better when we focus on a specific outcome so the first step is to explore and decide what outcome you want to have and how having that outcome will help you to achieve your long-term goals.

Most professionals and coaching practitioners tell us that coaching focuses on the future and that we do not talk about your past. This is not entirely true.

It is more accurate to say that we use the information that you bring to the coaching and this includes your past in relation to the issue and to the outcome you want.

 

Questions we may reflect on are:

 

How did you get to where you are now?

 

What have you tried that did not work for you?

 

What have you tried that did work?

 

What are the main challenges that you’ve experienced in relation to the issue?

All this is information that helps us understand your present circumstances.

 

Coaching does not dwell in the past, though.

 

However, sometimes, in order to make real changes, we need to face our past, understand it, accept it and let it go so that we can move forward.

 

You are not your past behaviour or circumstances.

 

In this sense, Life Coaching is the learning to practise the Art of Possibility.

 

Life Coaches do not believe that who you are now is the whole story.

 

We believe that there exists in you a potential still to be manifested and our job is to help you see this and to actualise that potential according to your needs and desires.

In my practice, I use a future-led approach whereby we work on becoming very clear about the outcome you want, and your short and long-term goals.

 

Then we work from the future backwards: If this is who you want to be and where you want to be, what is preventing you from being that person right now?

The first change is that of your mindset and personal identity:

 

Who do you believe yourself to be?

 

What are your assumptions about you, others and the world/life?

 

What emotional baggage are you carrying that is no longer serving you?

 

How do you show up in the world, in your relationships, at work, in your personal life?

These are some of the things we aim to explore in our Life Coaching sessions.

Sometimes, clients need more than challenging questions.

 

In my coaching practice, I use a wide range of tools and strategies to help you move forward.

 

We do visualisations, work with imagery, symbolism, energy and movement.

 

We work on your beliefs, values, communication skills, and many other aspects of your personal psychological make-up.

Sometimes clients have the mindset and the motivation but lack the skills that will allow them to overcome their obstacles.

 

We then do some life skills training, for example, we may work on developing your ability to set boundaries, have difficult conversations, perform in public, behave assertively, etc.

Life-skills training is an important aspect of an effective coaching strategy.

Finally, I bring my strong intuitive self to the session. I work with my intuition a lot and I am also a good reader of energy and energetic transactions.

People come to Life Coaching for many reasons, perhaps they are looking to:

  • Find clarity on an issue

  • Gain purpose

  • Become more self-aware

  • Set meaningful and challenging goals

  • Identify strengths and resources

  • Explore ways forward to achieving success

  • Take specific, targeted action

  • Set deadlines and commitments

  • Challenge limiting thoughts patterns

  • Review results and learn from successes and failures

  • Look at situations differently to gain new insights

  • Understand your own motivations better

  • Change direction away from habitual behaviour

  • Get to the core of what stops you moving ahead in your life

Life Coaching is also very helpful when there is a pervasive life pattern that prevents you from getting what you want in that perticular area of your life.

So often people want to make changes which only touch the surface and, over time, they find themselves reverting to old patterns, sometimes, to a state that is much worse. This is because very often, real change takes place when there is transformation at a deeper level of identity.

 

This means that we need to look at your beliefs, values, and perceptions.

 

We need explore  and understand how you relate to  yourself, to others and to the world at large. Going even further, how do you relate to life, to something bigger than yourself?

I can guide you through the process of transformation, step by step.

 

Working with me you will feel supported and encouraged to look at yourself in a completely different way.

 

Together, we will create the structures in your life that will enable you to break the cycle of recurring undermining patterns.

If you are ready to take the leap, contact me by e-mail to arrange a free consultation.

“I came to Maria with a lack of direction and she really helped me focus on what I wanted to achieve, and how to go about doing it. She always asked me challenging questions which I found difficult to answer, but brought me so much clarity. I would leave the sessions frantically writing down all the things I had to go and do. Three months on, I now have a clear focus and I am about to launch my brand. Before I came to Maria, I didn’t have a job! She gently steers you towards finding the answers within yourself (they are always there) and she has such a calm, compassionate way about her and truly understands the art of listening. Thank you for helping transform my life." 

- Claire, London Bridge

"Maria is a fantastic life coach and I cannot recommend her highly enough.  She has made a remarkable difference to the way I approach my life, helping me to gain confidence and clarity in reaching both my short and long-term goals. Maria has spent a lot of time working with me on anxieties regarding public performance and has taught me how to use anchoring techniques to move past these issues. These methods have proven to be invaluable in a variety of settings (not just on the stage) and given me the opportunity to make the most out of my skills without being clouded by excessive nerves.  I never previously realised how effective visualisation techniques can be - they have made a huge difference! I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend Maria, she genuinely cares about working through your issues with you and helping you to reach your full potential. I’ve recommended her to many friends already and will continue to do so!"

- Hannah, London 

"I saw Maria for an initial six sessions. I found her very insightful, kind and she seemed genuinely interested in helping me. Together we examined things such as one's own beliefs about ourselves, others and the world around us. I found the insights around identifying how we best learn things, be it in written or aural form really interesting, and also recognising ones own strengths and weaknesses, without negative feelings. All these things gave a good base understanding for us both to then map out achievable goals for me, in  the coming months ahead. I found the sessions really helpful and would recommend Maria to anyone else seeking help to achieving real progress with what they are doing

- Eugene, London